GayMatchmaker has several features to address your concerns. Even though they are not revolutionary, they certainly make for a safer and more secure gay online dating experience.
Adult Mode lets you hide R-rated content if you are at work or in public. If Adult Mode is ON, you will be able to view uncensored photos and use your webcam during chats. If Adult Mode is OFF, only G (general) or M (mature) content will appear while you browse. All accounts are defaulted with Adult Mode OFF. To turn it on, you can either pay an "age verification payment" with your credit card or upload an ID to prove that you're 18+ years old.
Winks aren't just simple winks in GayMatchmaker. When you send a wink you can include conversation starters (“We seem to be a good match. Would you like to chat?”, etc.), compliments (“Your profile is smokin’ hot!”), cheeky comments (“Do you supply ice cubes? You look too hot to handle!”, etc.), or by asking for more information (“Nice profile but I’d love to put a face to the name. Can you add a photo?”, etc.). These comments are pre-written and you just need to choose.
You can also set the maximum number of winks you receive everyday from None, 5, 10, 25, to Unlimited. You can further filter who can send you winks by member type (male, female, couple, group, transgender) or by age. These settings can be modified as often as you need.
Private Galleries are a great way of showing that you trust a member and elevates the level of your flirtation instantly. To use this feature, you first have to have photos in your Private Gallery. You can give access to other members when you send them a message and check the appropriate box. Free members can also be given access. Access can be revoked anytime. To know if someone gave you access to their Private Gallery, you only need to check your messages.
Similar to the blue check mark often seen in celebrities' and businesses' social media accounts, Profile Verification is one way of proving if an account is legitimate. To verify your profile, you just need to upload a photo of yourself holding up a piece of paper with the code “HHFAD” written by hand.
This is another way of showing that a profile is real. If you and a member have met face-to-face and you can vouch for their authenticity, you can post a Validation on their profile. It's basically a testimony that confirms that the person is who they say they are. You can also share a story about your meet-up. Only premium members can post Validations.